As far as I've looked into it, the 02M/J/Q ar not a bolt on from various reasons. One of them beeing that the small block 16v engines are leaned forward and the ones that use those gearboxes are leaned toward the back.
Another problem is the difference in bolt pattern of the driveshafts between these gearboxes.
For simplicity, i would go for 02T which is very similar to 02U installed in newer VAG cars such as MK5 1.6 FSI, 1.4 TSI and other small block engines, and you can try mixing and matching ratios. Personally, when i swapped a Lupo 6 speed into my 9N Polo, it was such a big difference at higher speeds, the acceleration in 3rd and 4th was a lot nicer because of the closer ratios and i also noticed the extra speed picked up in first gear, from the longer ratio. They are rated to aprox 200 NM, which is enough, because with your setup, you won't exceed that.